Recently I was told by a mental health professional, “you just described yourself as needy”. As if i needed to hear THAT…SOOO helpful, thanks. I pay you HOW MUCH??? Jackwagon.
Those were my original thoughts. I’ve had several hours to mull it over, and here’s my new reaction to what he said: SOOO helpful, thanks. I pay you HOW MUCH??? Jackwagon.
He had asked me a question to which I answered “because I feel invisible, like my ideas, thoughts, and comments don’t matter. I don’t feel like I bring any value to the table.” He looked right at me and said, “youjustdescribedyourselfasneedy”.
And you know what? I AM NEEDY. I NEED to have my thoughts validated. I NEED to at least believe that my input matters. I NEED to feel loved. I NEED to run/exercise/hike/play/have fun. I NEED COOKIES.
If we take a good look at ourselves, we ALL have needs that extend beyond food, oxygen, and shelter from inclement weather. We DO. And those needs help us define who we are to other people. Is there such thing as TOO NEEDY? Perhaps, but that is a subjective matter; we all have different levels of needy-acceptance for other people in our lives.
I am planning to examine my NEEDS versus my WANTS, and then go from there. I encourage you to do the same. Once we’ve decided which true NEEDS are not being met, let’s work on what steps we should take to FULFILL those NEEDS in a way that won’t cause others to push us away.
I think we can all benefit from this exercise. You?